An individual setting boundaries for themselves is a critically important aspect of mental health, an internal discussion that begins with answering two seemingly simple questions:
What am I okay with in my life?What am I not okay with in my life?
The boundary is what lies between these two things. As I mentioned in Circles That Are Not Pointless, things that are outside of this boundary are things I personally let go of, and more to the point: this is okay.
The analogy I mentioned earlier was that of swimming pools, and the rules posted there. Most public pools have a prominently displayed sign outlining the expectations the owner of the pool has for those using it. "No running", "shower first", and "pro…